So I went dancing the other night for goth night; haven't been for a while, busy with school and all; I missed it. Counted compliments, lost count. I always do when I wear the red corset and lace skirt.
Toward the end of the night, my feet were tired so I was sitting back watching people dance for a bit, adn this guy came up and said I looked lonely. He was quite genial and charming in a practised sort of way. I said, no, I'm with these guys here, actually, pointing to my friends nearby.
Ah, I see, he says. Then he introduced himself, and for the life of me I can't remember what his name was. Wish I could, I'd put him in timekeeper so the whole world could laugh at him. I can make up a name.
Anyway, he didn't offer his hand right away like most people do at goth night when they introduce themselves (they're a cultured group) and when I glanced down expecting it, he started making conversation about the japanese and how they dont shake hands, they bow, and it was all about respect and status and then something slipped in that might have been construed as sexist (can't remember exactly what it was), if taken the wrong way, and he started backpedalling, assuring me he was and equal opportunity supporter and all, and I know what he means, right?
And I said, yeah, I understand, you're afraid to say the wrong thing.
And he puts on this look like he's just amazed at what I said and says, "Wow. Just, wow. You are so perceptive. I'm so impressed."
And I'm trying to keep a straight face here and not roll my eyes. Anyway, I was amused and just let him keep going making a fool of himself. Cause he was good, I mean, if I was the age he thought I was, I might have fallen for it. (he'd assumed I was 20)
He tried all the angles, trying to figure out what would pique my interest and engage me in conversation, and I was deliberately giving him the shortest, least detailed answers I could possibly give, without actually blowing him off. He asked me twice if I wanted to dance, tried the intellectual approach, the deep/thoughtful approach ("you know, I like to watch people dance. The way people dance tells me a lot about them..." "Oh, and what does mine tell you about me?" "Well, I haven't really had enough time to watch you" Points out turlte because he mentioned he's seen her here a lot "how about her?" "Ah, -insert the most vague of descriptions that could easily apply to any woman. In fact, he actually said she had an interesting personality.-" I nod and neither confirm or deny his claims.)
Eventually he got frustrated and walked away without saying goodbye.
I wouldn't have done that to him if he hadn't been such a cocky slimeball. It was interesting though, being the aspie girl watching someone else flounder socially for a change. It looked like he was totally used to this working. Interesting to see how people don't know what to do when others don't react in a way that gives them a script to follow. It's a kind of power.
Toward the end of the night, my feet were tired so I was sitting back watching people dance for a bit, adn this guy came up and said I looked lonely. He was quite genial and charming in a practised sort of way. I said, no, I'm with these guys here, actually, pointing to my friends nearby.
Ah, I see, he says. Then he introduced himself, and for the life of me I can't remember what his name was. Wish I could, I'd put him in timekeeper so the whole world could laugh at him. I can make up a name.
Anyway, he didn't offer his hand right away like most people do at goth night when they introduce themselves (they're a cultured group) and when I glanced down expecting it, he started making conversation about the japanese and how they dont shake hands, they bow, and it was all about respect and status and then something slipped in that might have been construed as sexist (can't remember exactly what it was), if taken the wrong way, and he started backpedalling, assuring me he was and equal opportunity supporter and all, and I know what he means, right?
And I said, yeah, I understand, you're afraid to say the wrong thing.
And he puts on this look like he's just amazed at what I said and says, "Wow. Just, wow. You are so perceptive. I'm so impressed."
And I'm trying to keep a straight face here and not roll my eyes. Anyway, I was amused and just let him keep going making a fool of himself. Cause he was good, I mean, if I was the age he thought I was, I might have fallen for it. (he'd assumed I was 20)
He tried all the angles, trying to figure out what would pique my interest and engage me in conversation, and I was deliberately giving him the shortest, least detailed answers I could possibly give, without actually blowing him off. He asked me twice if I wanted to dance, tried the intellectual approach, the deep/thoughtful approach ("you know, I like to watch people dance. The way people dance tells me a lot about them..." "Oh, and what does mine tell you about me?" "Well, I haven't really had enough time to watch you" Points out turlte because he mentioned he's seen her here a lot "how about her?" "Ah, -insert the most vague of descriptions that could easily apply to any woman. In fact, he actually said she had an interesting personality.-" I nod and neither confirm or deny his claims.)
Eventually he got frustrated and walked away without saying goodbye.
I wouldn't have done that to him if he hadn't been such a cocky slimeball. It was interesting though, being the aspie girl watching someone else flounder socially for a change. It looked like he was totally used to this working. Interesting to see how people don't know what to do when others don't react in a way that gives them a script to follow. It's a kind of power.